Purposeful Living

3 Signs You Need To Take A Break

Taking a break? Wow, does that sound amazing or what? When I talk about taking a break, I’m not necessarily talking about sitting on your couch and binge-watching Netflix for 3 hours (yes, I’ve done that). I’m talking about stepping back from your normal routines to re-examine life. 

Are you feeling stressed or anxious? Do you find yourself having less patience for your children? If so, here are 3 signs you need a break (and why it’s so essential). 

You Lack Calmness 

I specifically remember a day last year when I was rushing to get everyone out the door. We had a commitment for the day and I had piled too much on my plate. Additionally, I woke up late and therefore, so did the children. The day had barely started and I was already on edge. 

The day progressed the same way. Anxiety and irritation plagued my spirit irritated all day long.

We’ve all had days like this. However, if this becomes a pattern in our lives, it’s time to take a break and reflect on the source of our restless spirits. As women, it’s easy to allow our schedules to become overwhelmed. Perhaps we struggled with saying “no” or “yes” to certain things in our current season of life.

In her book, The Best Yes, Lysa Terkeurst encourages us to view our schedules through the lens of Scripture. How exactly do we deal with the endless demands in a society that urges us to “do it all?” Lysa’s book gives practical ways we can say “yes” to the assignments God gives us without the weight of guilt.

Your Children’s Temperament Is Suffering

“If Momma ain’t happy, no one is happy.” I did not realize how true this was until I became a mom. Momma, you really do set the tone in your home. This is such a blessing! It can also manifest as a curse if we’re not vigilant. 

Our families sense when we’re overwhelmed, regardless of how much we try to hide our feelings. Our temperaments can prevent them from being calm as well. 

Perhaps you’ve already seen this with your children. Maybe you even have an anxious child who struggles with emotional triggers. When we’re so wrapped up in busyness that we don’t notice how it’s affecting our children, it’s time to take a break. Our children need to know it’s okay to take a break too. 

You’re Struggling Through Your Days

The way we deal with our full schedules and routines can also affect us. A busy day or week is bound to happen – that’s life. But, over time, depression surrounds our souls and we become so overwhelmed we don’t know what to do. We feel rudderless as we coast through life, trying to get through the day. 

If you find this feeling is becoming normal, here are a few things ways to find steady ground again. 

Ways To Take A Break

Read Truth

I feel lost when I’m not reading God’s Word. Whether I’m reading devotional, doing a Bible study, or reading the Psalms, I know I’m reading truth. The more I plant seeds of God’s truth in my soul, the more my days are grounded. 

Order Your Priorities

Take a step back and examine your priorities. “But I have so many?” “How is it possible to order them?” Don’t feel overwhelmed! Start small and purposeful.  

Take several moments to list out ALL of your priorities. Then pick a couple that are mandatory every day. For example: 

  • Scripture reading, 
  • Homeschooling my children, 
  • Cooking at least one meal. 

If those three things get done every day, it’s a win for me. Remember, you don’t have to do all the things every day.

Connect With Like-Minded Friends

Do you have a group of like-minded friends that point you toward Christ? I find that when I connect with these friends on a weekly basis, I feel less scattered and more rested. Even if the laundry doesn’t get done that day, I spent time in community and fed my soul. 

  • Schedule a time for your kids to play while you drink coffee with a friend
  • Attend a monthly book club
  • Video chat with a friend while you both do some chores (I’ve done this!)
  • Read a short story or article and discuss it over text message, email, or in-person
  • Plan for a weekly text message check-in

Whether you connect with friends in person or through a text message, this simple step refreshes your soul and can make blurry days seem a bit more clear. 

In the midst of the busyness of life, don’t forget to pause and take a break. Take some time to drink a favorite beverage, contemplate the important things in your life and refuel.

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9 Comments

  • megan russell

    This post was very timely for me! Ouch – conviction! You are correct in saying Momma sets the mood for the house. Too often lately I’ve set a very frustrated mood for our day – frustrated that the house is a mess, the kids are goofing off instead of working, we have too much planned for the day… I know I need to calm myself down. I like the reminder that you can’t do all the things every day! What a good idea to set three goals for the day. That way you know you’re getting important things done.

    • Danielle Poorman

      I’m so glad Megan! I have to daily remind myself to calm down. It’s hard when life is filled with chaotic moments that test our patience as mothers. Setting some goals was very helpful for me.

      -Danielle

  • Kristen

    I know that my mood…my own anxiety…directly impacts at the least my daughter. When I am upset, she feeds off that and has her own bad days. I try very hard to manage that better now that I see it reflected in those I love.

  • Annette

    When I’m tired and stop tackling the house, or wanting to cook meals, or basically do much of anything beyond self-centred pleasing…. I know I need to change something up.

    Sleep works wonders as does shaking myself up a bit. I really wish I had close friends nearby…..

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