Do You Struggle With Calmness In Motherhood?

by | Apr 14, 2020 | Cultivating Calmness | 4 comments

Do you struggle with calmness in motherhood? It’s difficult for mothers in today’s society as we deal with comparing one another. This leaves us feeling inadequate, anxious, and depressed. 

We’re in week four of social quarantine and we’re all feeling “it.” As a mom, I’m feeling slightly anxious. Regardless of the walks we take, the cakes we bake, or naps we indulge in, our home feels small. Emotions are high. But if I’m honest, those feelings were there weeks ago. I lack calmness and I long for peace.

So, that leaves us with 2 important questions, “Can we cultivate calmness in motherhood,” and “How is that possible?”

do you struggle with calmness in motherhood

Finding Clarity In Your Calling As A Mother

Momma, you have the ultimate calling from God. Your calling does not simply end with your daily tasks inside and outside of the home. Certain seasons of life produce seeds of doubt that cloud your focus.

You have a unique calling in your journey of motherhood. Glorifying God while you wash dishes and wipe noses is a high calling. Making dinner for your children after working in the office all day is also a high calling. Your calling will look different from other mothers. That’s okay! It’s supposed to look that way. There is beauty in God’s divine purpose in your calling as a mom. 

Where Do You Begin?

There are many days when I find it difficult to find clarity in my calling. When my kids are sick, I’m tired, or we’re unusually busy, I lose my focus. I begin doubting my purpose and my worth. Cultivating clarity and calmness is not easy for me. But, here’s the thing. Cultivating these precious things is a worthwhile process. 

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Remember Cultivation Is A Process

Cultivation is a necessary process. Let’s compare this process to gardening. Now, I don’t garden, but we had a garden when I was a young girl. We planted seeds and allowed the rain and sun to take over the process. At each stage, we had to patiently wait for growth. The same idea relates to us. The process seems long but as you “plant and water” you’ll see growth.

Seek Quiet Time With the Lord

If you can, get alone with the Lord. Honestly, this looks different for me each day. But, I know that I have to get creative with my time in order to spend time with the Creator. Jesus sets a beautiful example for us in this passage below. 

Matthew 14:23  – “After he had dismissed them, he went up on a mountainside by himself to pray. Later that night, he was there alone.”

Even if you can create five quality minutes in your day to connect with the Lord, you’ll begin cultivating calmness. 

Clear Away the Chaos and Accept Grace

clear away the chaos and accept grace

Mothers experience chaos in various forms and sometimes it’s unavoidable. We can cultivate calmness by taking a step back and analyzing the areas where you feel restless. 

Ask yourself:

  • “Am I seeking perfection and need to relinquish control?” 
  • “Am I relying on my own strength in _____?” 

We can feel a lack of calmness when we refuse to rely on God.  

Acknowledging our weakness and accepting God’s strength gives us the freedom to put on the calmness He wants to give.

In 2 Corinthians 12:9, Paul says:

But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me.”

This is a beautiful reminder that God does not expect perfection. He desires us to boast in our weaknesses so that we can fully accept His grace. When we as mothers rest in the power of Christ, we can begin cultivating calmness in motherhood. 

Remember, cultivating calmness takes time. Be patient in the process and let God cover you in His grace.

Need More Encouragement?

I recently did a short four-part video series on “Cultivating Calmness in Motherhood.” Here is the first video that I did on Facebook Live. You’re welcome to watch it here:

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Rest In Him, Mama,